Therapy for termination for medical reasons · Ontario
You made an impossible decision.
Now you are living with everything that comes after.
Specialized therapy for individuals navigating the grief and trauma of TFMR — a particular kind of pregnancy loss that is rarely understood — from someone who has been where you are.
Who I Am
I offer specialized virtual grief therapy for women in Toronto and across Ontario who have experienced termination for medical reasons.
This work is informed by both lived experience in TFMR and over twenty years of clinical training in trauma, grief and loss.
Work With Me
Melanie Banka Goela, RP, RSW
A grief that doesn't fit neatly anywhere
If you have experienced a termination for medical reasons, you may be carrying a grief that doesn't fit neatly anywhere. It isn't the grief others expect. It can include love and fear in the same breath. Relief and devastation on the same day. The weight of a decision made quickly, under circumstances no one prepares you for — and the silence that often follows.
You may have found that the people around you don't know what to say. That the loss isn't acknowledged the way other losses are. That you are expected to move on before you are ready, or before you have even had space to feel what happened.
Still With Me exists for exactly this — founded by someone who has been where you are.
Love and fear, together
For the child you wanted, and the weight of what their life — and yours — might have looked like.
Relief alongside guilt
Feelings that arrive together and are hard to say out loud, even to the people closest to you.
Invisible grief
Loss that others don't always acknowledge the way they would other losses.
The wondering
Whether you made the right choice. What it says about you. Sometimes for years.
The future
What your life looks like now. Whether you will try again. What another pregnancy might hold — and whether you can bear to hope.